On Kids and Other Demons

On Children
 Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

In our society, everyone expects that when a couple gets married, they will immediately have children. Not doing so would raise eyebrows from relatives and elicit questions that go something like “is there something wrong with those two?”. I resent it that in this day and age, begetting offsprings is still a knee jerk reaction among married couples. I happen to think that having children requires consideration and forethought. We are not an agricultural society anymore (not predominantly at least) that it is imperative to have children to help one with farming and chores. What’s more, the world’s state of overpopulation should make us pause and think before bringing out human beings into this world.