Men and Their Erections

Ok so I have a friend. Let’s call her Ana. And she and her husband (which henceforth shall be known as Christian) have been married for 5 years.

Now Ana and Christian love each other very much. They share the same background, the same values in life.They are (Ana believes) friends as well as lovers/ husband-wife. In fact Ana thinks that Christian is her soulmate, an opinion he also shares — and he has told her that once before.

The problem is Christian has been laid off work recently (for the past 6 months he doesn’t have a steady job) and Ana believes that he seems depressed about it. Though when she asks Christian about how he is, he would say he is just fine. Christian is the quintessential guy which us girls love but hate — the one who won’t talk about his feelings.

Their sex life before they got married and during the past four years ranges from ecstatically wonderful to okay. There were lulls but not lasting for more than 2 weeks. In general, Ana was satisfied with that part of her marriage.

Until, well, about 3 months ago. Was it a lack of libido on Christian’s part? Ana wonders. He doesn’t seem to be as “friendly” to Ana as he was before. It’s not as if he can’t get it up. He can and he does — like in the morning, it’s there when Ana wakes up. But then when she makes the moves, Christian would tell her, in so many words, that he doesn’t like to play. But why won’t Christian do something about it? Ana would sometimes try playing sex siren and walk around the house wearing her underwear and he would just be glued to the computer. One day she asked him outright if he would like a blowjob and he laughed at her.

What to do? What to do?

Ana is frustrated to say the least. She has been horny for three weeks and has been masturbating and watching porn movies. But she misses the intimacy with her husband, the love of her life.

Sometimes Ana envies men. They can so easily withhold sex from their women. Which vice versa is not that possible. If a man wants sex and a girl refuses, he can rape her and that’s it. But a woman can’t rape a limp dick. So there’s the problem.

The bird and the bee. Artwork from: heycallmejane.wordpress.com/2012/04/16/when-to-explain-the-birds-and-the-bees-it-doesnt-matter/

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2 Comments

  1. A terrible shame. It sounds to me that Ana is an awsome woman. Speaking for myself, I probably would dry out if I had lost my job and couldn’t financially contribute to our future. That would weigh extremely heavy on me.

    As for the talking out your feelings bit. I’ve tried it in other circumstances, and while it has helped my wife and other people it has never helped me. Here’s why:

    When I’m done talking about the problem, it’s still there. It won’t go away until I have executed some action that finally solves it. Maybe Christian is the same way (he might not be but it’s worth considering). If he is, and the problem is that he unemployed, he’s got find another job that wil help him to no loker feel like he’s a useless bum — even though he probably isn’t. It wouldn’t be enough to just keep pounding the pavement, he needs to score a good paying job doing whay he enjoys. Yes, it very lofty but if he’s the go-getter he sounds like he is, that’s probably what it will take to get his libido soaring again.

    I really hope that they can figure out their problem.

    I have to say something about that last paragraph. Men who rape aren’t interested in sex. They’re interested in violating someone, even other men, in the most vile way they can think of. Men who are rapists are severely warped. They aren’t crazy, that gives them an excuse. They’re sociopathic; evil. They’re not the same as other men who simply dry out due to anxiety, depression or some other psychological trauma.

    Good luck!

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  2. At last! A reply — and it took 18 days! I will have to tell Ana that the Internet does have its good points and will not bring about the “downfall of civilization as we know it.” 🙂

    Thank you so much Allan (I did check you out! I like the poem in your About-page, a limerick?).

    And for this part of your comment: ” Men who rape aren’t interested in sex. They’re interested in violating someone, even other men, in the most vile way they can think of. Men who are rapists are severely warped. They aren’t crazy, that gives them an excuse. They’re sociopathic; evil. They’re not the same as other men who simply dry out due to anxiety, depression or some other psychological trauma.” Yup. I totally agree!

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