Ok so I have a friend. Let’s call her Ana. And she and her husband (which henceforth shall be known as Christian) have been married for 5 years.
Now Ana and Christian love each other very much. They share the same background, the same values in life.They are (Ana believes) friends as well as lovers/ husband-wife. In fact Ana thinks that Christian is her soulmate, an opinion he also shares — and he has told her that once before.
The problem is Christian has been laid off work recently (for the past 6 months he doesn’t have a steady job) and Ana believes that he seems depressed about it. Though when she asks Christian about how he is, he would say he is just fine. Christian is the quintessential guy which us girls love but hate — the one who won’t talk about his feelings.
Their sex life before they got married and during the past four years ranges from ecstatically wonderful to okay. There were lulls but not lasting for more than 2 weeks. In general, Ana was satisfied with that part of her marriage.
Until, well, about 3 months ago. Was it a lack of libido on Christian’s part? Ana wonders. He doesn’t seem to be as “friendly” to Ana as he was before. It’s not as if he can’t get it up. He can and he does — like in the morning, it’s there when Ana wakes up. But then when she makes the moves, Christian would tell her, in so many words, that he doesn’t like to play. But why won’t Christian do something about it? Ana would sometimes try playing sex siren and walk around the house wearing her underwear and he would just be glued to the computer. One day she asked him outright if he would like a blowjob and he laughed at her.
What to do? What to do?
Ana is frustrated to say the least. She has been horny for three weeks and has been masturbating and watching porn movies. But she misses the intimacy with her husband, the love of her life.
Sometimes Ana envies men. They can so easily withhold sex from their women. Which vice versa is not that possible. If a man wants sex and a girl refuses, he can rape her and that’s it. But a woman can’t rape a limp dick. So there’s the problem.