For quite a long time, there wasn’t any. Physical stuff between us is what I mean.
I can chalk up 90% of that to the fact that I am repressed; and 10% to the fact that I am naive. I actually believed him literally when he informed me that he wanted us to “be friends”. Which I interpreted to mean as something platonic.
He does not exactly fit the archetype of male that I usually have a crush on — tall, brooding mestizo types with heavy lidded gazes. He appears average — open, smiling and approachable, dark, school-boyish, straight nose, big ears, cute dimple … but average nonetheless. That first date we had, he gave out the impression of being an agreeable teddy bear.
Maybe attraction starts with hyperawareness. An emotion that makes one feel unsafe.
I can pinpoint the exact date when this happened. The middle of June, just before a typhoon. He called my cel to tell me that he’s passing by my apartment later that day to return a CD I lent him. I had forgotten all about that CD and I couldn’t have cared less if he returned it or not.
I was checking papers in the faculty lounge of the Psychology Department, taking advantage of the fact that classes have been suspended and I could catch up with the scut works that come with being a lowly undergrad instructor.
Me: You really don’t need to bother coming over. A typhoon’s brewing.
Jonas: It’s not raining yet.
Me: But it soon will. Manila might get flooded.
Jonas: I’ll bring a car.
Me: To return a CD? Just take it, I don’t listen to that anyway.
Jonas: Why don’t you want to see me?
Me: It’s not that I don’t want to see you. But I don’t see the point of you being hassled coming here just to return a CD.
Jonas: It’s not a hassle. Look, have you had lunch?
Me: Uhh … no.
Jonas: So I’ll bring some food and we can have lunch together.
In my culture, there is something about eating with another person that breaks the ice. Something about sharing one’s bread or whatever. And also, I was really hungry.
Now I am thinking, if I didn’t really like him, I could have lied and told him that I had already eaten even if the truth is that my stomach was rumbling like crazy. Or I could have told him that I was really busy. Or I could have told him to drop dead.
Since I didn’t do any of those things, I found myself at 4 pm alone in the faculty dining room with this guy I dated once almost half a year ago, who appeared seemingly out of nowhere to return a music CD that I couldn’t care less about.
He looked thinner than I remembered, his eyes sunken and tired. He still had the same smile, though, the one that would light up and transform his face. I could have imagined it, but he looked really happy to see me. Please note that this is is the first time we’ve seen each other in 4 months and that there was no communication between us during that time; save for a conversation over text a month ago when he asked me about withdrawal from amphetamines.
He brought two paperbags-full of Chinese food, the bag had the logo of a well-known restaurant in Banawe.
Jonas asked, “Why are you working?”
“Why should’t I?”
“Classes are suspended. People are either in their homes or in the malls.”
“I don’t have money for the mall, and I can’t finish all these paperwork at home,” I pointed out. By this time I was famished; I had to help myself to a steamed bun inside that paperbag.
I was munching away and he was looking at me like a doting father. “How’s your drug addiction?” I asked tactlessly, half joking.
“I was not the one into drugs.”
“My uh … a friend.”
“And how’s your friend?”
“She tried to commit suicide last night. I just left her this morning in the ICU.”
I stared at him open mouthed. He sounded flat, toneless, definitely not joking. “Oh god, Jonas, I am so, so sorry!”
Silently, he took my hand (the left one that was not holding a pork bun) , and started tracing my palm with his fingers. “Me too.”